9/28/12

Lauren Bender

Essay About Ribbons

I’m here today to read you an essay about ribbons and also because I was invited. I wish I was better at singing, but I’m not even a fiction writer. If it’s recent and not something from the online Sheridan Libraries at a certain university whose name I don’t want to say at the risk of sounding snobby, I probably haven’t read it and will probably not be a good conversationalist after the reading if you ask me about this book or that book, I just want to say that up front because I am planning on trying to socialize. Also I realized after I wrote this that it’s all about me and a lot about my family. For a while I’ve been trying to be okay with honesty in writing and reading—I used to do a lot of reading from inside things or in front of things, but here we are in real lives and my one real life inhabits every corner of itself and I don’t have anything else to investigate or I don’t need anything else to investigate or I am trying to tell the difference between the two, so what better way. I’m sorry to be so confessional; I hate that too. There are parts with no ribbons, and I’m also sorry about that, except that there is a thread, if ribbons can have threads, of course they do, ones that fray when you pull them apart.

Essay about Ribbons
He left the baker’s string bracelet hanging on the corner of the book on the bathroom mantle, if bathrooms can have mantles. I want to say what else is on there because the way things are set up is in case anyone were to ever come over. There are two things suspended in resin, separately (they do that with clear casting resin): a dandelion puff and a fake antique globe from my Dad’s desk (he’s still alive, I just liked it and took it when I went to college). There are also shells and pinch pots that in the past have been used as ash trays, and a picture of my first classroom of kids, and two horseshoes turned the lucky way, and an envelope by this kid Sam that he handed me once with five dollars in it that says, “Give my Oreo cookie Ms. Lauren.”  I told him he could have an Oreo and that he should give Mommy his five dollars. The last time I went to the dentist they said, “Oh,” and something about my gums, and then I went to Wal-Mart and bought an electric toothbrush which really freed up some mantle space because it’s stored in the medicine cabinet and so is the toothpaste which is in a mint green mug, which I just realized is totally appropriate by virtue of what it contains—I love a closed circuit and I would consider that a closed circuit even if it’s just based on one aspect, that being mint paste flavor. I have a pinch pot with floss and tweezers in it, but I didn’t feel like it was okay to have toenail clippers in there so those are in the cabinet too on the other side with my worthless deodorant. The book with the baker’s string bracelet says, “You already have everything in your own pure quality. If you realize this ultimate fact, there is no fear.” I was brushing my teeth there this one time—before the electric toothbrush—when everything went really weird. I texted. I was too afraid to get in the car. I tried to read Everything Falls Apart, or When Things Fall Apart, or When Everything Falls Apart. I took a Xanax. When I woke up I didn’t throw the bracelet away. I’m not sure if it’s still there, hold on. No, it’s not there. It is there.
I am almost okay with the autism awareness ribbon magnet on the back of my car. My hatchback. My 2013 hatchback. I own a tote monogrammed with my initials. I go to Old Navy by the season. In 50 years it will have been like having a “childhood schizophrenia” ribbon, or a Willowbrook ribbon (which, ironically, when I searched for its name by Googling “Kennedy institution shut down,” returned the website of my workplace). Also in 50 years my autism awareness ribbon magnet will be on a spaceship on its way to drop the kids off at Mars. But right now it means money toward deconstructing beauty.  I mean scientific research.
The iconic autism puzzle piece motif is a problem, as in an omission; something missing. As if something to be solved by the smug puzzle-put-togetherer. A hole in the puzzle brain to be filled. An otherwise brain-shaped puzzle in a head-shaped frame held together with that puzzle glue we gave my Dad to paint on his 2,000 piece Planters Peanut puzzle so that it could be hung on the wall. It’s easier to look in the couch cushions for the missing piece than to change the head-shaped frame. No edge pieces—takes longer. Takes acknowledgement of the other and new words, or no words. At the risk of sounding romantic, there is sadness there, in those eyes which are often set deep. Here is a choice to stop having to spin around, or to say, “Hey, let me spin, and leave, and never come back, or when you do, bring me the soft part of the bread with ketchup to dip it in.” I have sat next to one of my friends when he toggles between Google image search pages of color swatches. Tonight I looked up “kinds of green” to find the color of the mug I mentioned earlier. Tell me a time when your arms have been full and you haven’t used the wheelchair ramp. Tell me you haven’t smelled your fingers when you’re alone.
What I want to say is that there is mystery there and presumption of suffering and our compulsion to solve or ease or assimilate by force, and all of those things are necessary and compassionate and horrible. Objectively there is beauty there just as there is beauty everywhere. I dissected a cow’s eyeball and there was a membrane in the back, behind all the structures and diagrams. It was opalescent and concave. It was the beginning of the universe. The cow never knew it was there. And what was my knowing? It was extravagant. I peeled off the membrane with tweezers. It lost its concavity; it folded over wet on itself and was black. There was no name for it that I could find, and yet surely it continues in every cow eyeball to this day. Surely we have named it, and it is ubiquitous and gorgeous and completely functionless and mundane and the cow with its stomachs just keeps chewing and knows when to lie down for the rain. People believe that like they believe that feeding a cow its own hair will make it forget its former home. The cow wouldn’t want to do either of those things.
I would like to design an awareness ribbon awareness ribbon for my spaceship.
My dad didn’t really go through a puzzle phase but he did go through a model plane phase and a stamp collecting phase and for a while has been in the gardening phase which has included a pond phase. On Christmas we take turns opening things from youngest to oldest. In the past there have been so many presents that we’ve been late to Grandmom’s house. I’ve been ashamed to have significant others come to Christmas; luckily it starts around 7am so that’s a good excuse because we have to leave around 6 to get there on time. Between the pond and the new sunroom and the presents, I just don’t know. When we broke up my parents brought me a flat-screen TV from Costco. They walked around the yard holding my hands and my dad asked me which color of some flower I liked better. My mom sent me home with zucchini bread and her own Tupperware, and she gave me a set of mixing bowls, and my dad gave me a Christmas cactus. The other night they came and we went to Grano down the street. They loved it. I showed them where my leg was bitten. I said, “Shoot, this place is BYOB, I forgot.” My dad said, “That’s okay, we can have water.” They had just come from the baseball game. My dad was wearing a soft tangerine t-shirt. My mom was wearing a darker orange top with a collar that looked like a braid. They had gotten some sun. The water glasses were small and the water came in a tall glass bottle with a stopper and my dad said it was some of the best flan he’s ever had.
Do you feel like this is disingenuous? I’m just trying to be honest with you and I know that even the fact that I read that first part about not reading many books these days was not quite honest because I was reading it instead of just saying it. I felt like even making eye contact with the audience and trying to be honest would be confrontational and would require something of you which some people would say is collaborative and I believed that at one point and probably will again but to me it felt presumptuous and demanding. Am I trying to just seem like a nice person?
Could I describe DNA as ribbon-like? I’m afraid that my twin sister and I are not actually identical. When I found out from my mom that we were in two separate fetal sacs I was devastated to a disproportionate degree. I thought we had had our bulbous and bent limbs around each other, and our foreheads touching during that big preparatory snooze, and that some nonexistent pink light had illuminated the same fluid around us with no membrane to filter it and change our experiences of it. The fact that this knowledge didn’t seem to affect my sister isolated me further and I assumed a lack of concern or callousness on her part in utero. This is why I can be codependent, or not why but this is symptomatic of my codependency. She said, “Laur, it’s not like we weren’t together—those sacs are so thin, I’m sure we were still touching all the time. Are you really sad about this?” I probably teared up and she probably said that we should go for a walk and get out for a little bit.
I haven’t said much about my mom and nothing about my brother—my mom of course did our hair and so there were ribbon barrettes for holiday pictures, so there’s that. My brother had hair like corn silk but straighter and would cry until he choked and gagged on the other side of the baby gate at the end of the hall. He’s so angry most of the time. I made him candles for Christmas. In conclusion, a bracelet given in Harper’s Ferry for him to wear on the trail, a magnet to one day be stolen from the back of my car, gluttonous Christmases, vascular membranes, and the downy hair of small children. Things that can be held in the hands and between the fingers, all of them. Material. I would say “woven together” or “fabric” but thankfully there is no tapestry, just a fragmented experience like yours but with different people in all the parts. My sister likes a library metaphor where each person is a book, and certain shelves more familiar and with a certain smell. That’s pretty good and I was impressed that she had carried around this thought probably for years with no need to share it until necessary. The end.


Lauren Bender is a teacher, student, and twin living and working in Baltimore. Publications include The Dictionary Poems: Some Bees (New Lights Press), Whale Box (Publishing Genius), [there is no YOU in poem] (Big Game Books), and I'AM BORED (Produce Press, with Kevin Thurston). Selected exhibitions/performances include CorpOreo (Transmodern Festival) and Big Pink (The Baltimore Museum of Art). Lauren curated the BOITE: Show&Tell series at Minas Gallery in Hampden and is co-director of Narrow House. She feels pretty good lately.

9/27/12

Na Kim

Whale Ballin'

Na Kim is an artist and designer from Brooklyn.

9/26/12

Carrie Murphy


Receipts

I killed a stinkbug by drowning it
in lavender lotion from Anthropologie. All

around, the vintage suitcases I collected
during the dark times. Up with the crinoline

& the linen curtains that make us feel safe
with good taste. Sailor pants in the

drawer for a nautical Halloween costume.
Hair in braids. Girls putting bikini

pictures on the internet from their phones.
Girls speaking in videos about their

plastic drawers filled with shimmers for
the eyes. Those wavy lines televisions

never get anymore. My shorts are too
short but also not short enough,

not for this place, this night, this
crawling sense I wear with

claws. All these t-shirts of alma maters
& sodas with straws floating up

while I'm still blueing my way in,
& then out.


Carrie Murphy's first collection of poems, PRETTY TILT, was released by Keyhole Press in 2012. She received her BA from the University of Maryland and her MFA from New Mexico State University. Her chapbook, MEET THE LAVENDERS, appeared in 2011 from Birds of Lace. She works as a teacher and freelance writer, and is in the process of becoming certified as a birth doula.

9/25/12

Nadxieli Nieto Hall


The Year I Called Him Alex

We moved his Alexithymia from one room to another, each time his face cracking slightly under its marble. Week after week, I manhandled it, rubbing my bluing tips over the tick-tock veins. Four weeks in, he looked like Roquefort; at five weeks, like Alexander. In the evenings, I could hear the crumbling, his pasty hands hiding the rebuilding. Sometimes I took it for the rustling of wall-bound mice; other times I started from sleep and yelped. “Dog” he would exclaim and patting my head put me down to sleep. How I slept, I don’t know. Most likely on my side. There I could hold onto the edge of the bed, the only solid surface in the whole goddamn house.



Nadxieli Nieto Hall is the Managing Editor of NOON, and lead book designer and editor at Nieto Books. Formerly, she was the Editor-in-Chief of Salt Hill Journal. Her writing has appeared in The New York Tyrant, West Wind Review, Dirty Durty Diary, Clamor, and Washington Square Review, among others. She lives in Brooklyn.

9/24/12

Christopher Bowen

Her Happy Ending

            Mom plays the cassette of someone singing happy birthday to me with my name. On Saturday there are cartoons to be had and I am ten. I grow. Tapes are traded for C.D.s, M.P.3s, 401ks on a long enough time line.  Mom cant sing happy birthday and I grow older.
            We celebrate a daughters birthday. The wife chooses the cake. She makes it from scratch for us and we put five candles for five years on it and light them. I am alive and lit, a shine of fire from candles are wishes for a daughter to grow strong, willful, compassionate. I am alive and then the room is lit. It dims and she blows on them with lungs, with life. Life is chocolate and three-layered. She turns to me, Daddy, when are we going to celebrate your birthday? I tell her I am too old for birthdays and cant blow candles out like she can. She laughs. She asks, What would you want for your birthday? I say I want her to be happy. She opens presents.
            A mother sneaks into a teenagers bedroom the last time shell be allowed without knocking for the rest of a lifetime. Life is this, three women and layered. It is layered in age. She hits play to life, the dog waking downstairs. I am alive and have coffee for the first time. I hit play. I go back and kiss her on the forehead before leaving the house. I am sixteen and going to work.
            My little angel turns to me, opening her first present. Dad, how did you know I wanted a baby doll? Does she have make-up and clothes and stuff like mommy does? I slide from the table rubbing my hand between my eyes and forehead at the kitchen sink a room away.       “Mommy, I whisper.
            The wife cuts the cake. Long days at work and I cannot cut the cake, so my wife cuts the cake. We are behind on a mortgage and single utility and have triple layer chocolate cake for a daughters birthday. At night, pillows whisper, 'you know we cant afford those things.'
            But the daughter is happy and turns five once. We age in different ways, in layers. In the mirror that morning, I am awake. Theres a gray hair I pluck from my beard. I hit play, again and again. The bathroom is lit and so am I. Its what the electric company wants. It is why they are here. While the wife sleeps, the daughter sleeps and I sleep inside them. This is what I have grown, I think beside the bed. I pray there. I put on my coat at the door, the shoes for work. They are tied and so am I. I am alive and awake, tying these things. I married Julie and tied, got retirement and college funds and still I tied. Thirty-five, I keep the heat on because sleeping inside the women I know, tied in their hearts and minds in November the world is not as warm, not as caring.
            Theres random tragedy somewhere. And it is massive. I hear about it on the radio. I get e-mails from co-workers. I hear friends watching it on the news and ask what kind of tragedy it is. Tell Angie happy birthday for me, they say.    Through my front door, the tragedy lifts off shoulders. Angie and her cat meet me there. She hugs my leg. Can I have another birthday?
            Cant have too many, I smile. If you did, youd forget each one and forget the meaning of birthdays forever. Theres a woman I know. Theres a cruelty to the world I know.
            Forever? she asks.
            Yes, that would be forever, her grandmother whispers behind me.



Bowen is a culinary student and chef by day, writer by night. His short fiction has been included in Hobart, anthologized by Flash Forward, and appeared here in Everyday Genius previously, among others. He also blogs and runs a chapbook press Burning River out of his hometown of Cleveland, Ohio.